Khaps and our pollitical system

Khaps are hell bent upon to destroy the social fabric by denying the people to avail their individual freedom enshrined in constitution. These extra constitutional bodies are proving havoc for a just society. However, these are not even socially sanctioned but political class of today's is so timid that it has fallen in the line of these khaps for the fear of loosing their vote bank and this is totally untrue that they have any capacity to influence the voters' behaviour. Actually minds of politicians peep through these conglomeration of hood looms.Every other day a couple in Haryana is butchered and nothing is done against the tormentors. Some times it is felt that we are living in a "murda logon ki basti" (habitation of dead people). Social vibration is missing but only vibration of a mobile phone is known to people. In coming few days we will hear the roar on TV screen and in columns of newspaper on release of census data that will show the huge gap in female population. But girls have lost in the diktats of khaps. Either they are not permitted to take birth and if any how succeeded to see the universe then their journey to youth hood is made miserable. Proper education, nutrition, health facilities remain at bay for her. She is cursed to be treated as an obnoxious weed. It is expected from her that she should be soul less crab and barred to show any emotion. If she dares to see a companion or boy of her age eye to eye , she is branded as lecherous and condemned to torture and in extreme done to death. Every day newly wed couples out of their caste or class are compelled to seek protection for their lives. Strangely enough hyper active media make a news out of them for few days. and when this news item turns old it is thrown in dustbin. No serious efforts are made to have a discussion in the society through any public fora. This chain of atrocities, intolerance and brutality is extending unabated. These unconstitutional bodies should be dealt strongly not on the political front but also isolate such element on social level so that every one could live in accordance with ones will.

Khauf (terror) of khap panchayats

Diktats of khap panchayats seem to rule the rural Haryana rather than rule of law, one of the key pillar of any democratic system and these Tughlaquee diktats are ruining the life of young married couples. Recently few such cases have been the headlines of newspapers. The diktats issued by these kangaroo courts of khap panchayats are writing the fate of married couples and have taken the established justice delivery system at ransom without any written or custom oriented authority completely disregarding the norms governing the private life individuals. Marriage of Satish of Kheri Maham and Kavita of Bhagi-Bahrod was annulled by such socalled khap panchayat and the couple was ordered to be brother-sister despite having a child out of this wedlock. How can a married couple , who has intimate physical relations be brother-sister all of sudden? Do the social and moral ethics permit this? The alamberdars of social values and customs forget the fact that once sexual relations established between a man and woman, they can not be treated as brother-sister even in parlance. Likewise khap panchayat annulled a marriage of a couple of Kheri Ballam and Sundana and ordered their exile from the village. Marriage of Ravi Khanagwal of Khandakheri and Kavita Nagar of Nangthala village was spoiled by hood looms of village citing that marriage is illegal between them because Khanagwal gotra people reside in Nangthala. Couple is curse to face the ignominy rather bliss of honeymoon within hours of tieing the nupital knot.
In all these cases, pathetic attitude of state governmeand its administration is not only appalling but disgusting also. Political class who swears to be saviour of the masses skips its responsibility.Rather protecting people, it showers mute approval to the undemocratic unethical actions of khap panchayats in order to intact their vote bank. It is their duty to oppose each and every such incident and generate a social opinion against such kind of harakiri. Administration time and again (like in earlier cases) prefer to keep mum. It is there duty to implement the rule of law. Administration is responsible for every single individual's life, liberty and privileges. Most of social organizations and NGOs claiming for working of the security and liberty of individuals could not utter a single word against these gory incidents. Only a thin voice of few radical organizations is heard in opposition sporadically. Executive, that all the time harps and insists that judiciary is encroaching upon its field of action, amazingly non-committal for the security and liberty of such victimized couples. Higher Judiciary takes the cognizance of such instances but administration prefer to be mum and lame. The other day, we celebrated the death anniversary of Ch. Ranbir Singh, referred as icon of Indian constitution but we failed to respect and implement the noble ideas enshrined in constitution drafted by these great freedom fighters and law makers. It is the shame on us. Issues of marriage with in gotra is cooked to stress and emphasize their view point rather than any reality. Not even a single marriage has been occurred where both boy and girl belongs to strictly speaking same gotra. Even the gotra of ancestors is isolated as a matter of principle while finalizing a alliance not only in arranged marriages but also in love marriages. As and when such issue is raised, the other gotras of the village are said to be in the degree of isolation. When the marriage between gotras is not forbidden in other parts of the state, then how can the marriage in particular village is taboo. Such marriage alliances are raked up as marriage in the same gotra. Unholy and unrealistic hype is created to make the lives of the couples spoiled in order to brighten chaudhar of a few feudal minded village lords. Social fabric of society is torn for the suitability of a few such chaudhar hungry people. So called village lords with ingrained feudal mind set are allowed to play freely according to their sweet whim and wishes. Time has come, not only government and its administration but also society as a whole has to oppose such tendencies tooth and nail otherwise peace and tranquility of the rural areas will be at stake. Time and again Haryana in general and rural areas in particular are made hunting ground to brighten the leadership of a few disgruntle element who are hell bent upon to spoil the social order. Should we be made victim of such thoughtless minds? Think...........

Social order demands new mores, norms and value system

Society of present day has been evolved after undergoing different phases- differentiated or undifferentiated. The society is and has been highly stratified in general but south Asian societies in particular are characteristically introverted. Indian societies are typically influenced by significant factors purported and perpetuated by alien cultures over the centuries and thereby assumed unique character hardly found anywhere. Northern India had been a battle ground being the land frontier of India with rest of world. People lire were hopelessly obliged to face every kind of force whether it was good or evil. External aggressors for conquests had their own motives while on the other hand cultural and religious intrusion had their own manifestations. This all led to evolution of distinct Indian culture typically composite and complex in its texture and structure.Caste, creed, religion, social mores and norms interwoven in its own way to give rise a completely unique character to Indian society with its own synthesized values and order. Historically, society in northern India is altogether different with respect to other distinct parts of India.
Here in Haryana also castes become more prominent and influencing people's behaviour in social mil lieu and in this process religion relegated to backseat.Castes in northern states predominately not only influences functioning of social institutions but also dictates mode of social actions of its people. Over the different phases of social development castes become very rigid and hardly permits horizontal movements between different castes. But fortunately the prevailing situation is continuously under strain because of discrete impact of expanding educational network, forced urbanization and changing socio-economic and political scenario. People somehow recognized and accepted the phenomenon of inter caste marriages particularly i urban centres. Also those who belongs to rural areas and fall in such kind of inter community transgressions are compelled to find shelter in urban hideouts.
But society is so complex and new inevitable bonding are bound to arise. Village societies that were simple and social values and norms at a whole were applicable on each and every individual and group in equal terms. Social relations were very simple and straight. People living not only in same village but also of neighbourhood treated themselves brother en and sisters. This bondage is considered as sacred. Over the time these social relations crumbled by their own weight. Young ones are not committed to this old and outdated arrangements. New emotional relation peeps through their eyes beyond unrealistic brother-sister configuration. heavens have fallen sensing this new beginning. Not only tradition oriented people but also progressive bent of mind people are amazed and at a great loss in explaining and accepting these new moorings of young lads. Gotra is a key while arranging a mate both in rural and urban societies. Even the most advanced parents living in Haryana think of Gotra of his/her clan up to at least three generations. But what may come across, this social arrangement have to have pave way for new emerging needs both psychological and mental. History is the witness that change is every time resisted tooth and nail; and certain young people have to sacrifice their lives on the altar of this unthink for social device. New social order demands newer mores and norms accommodating new needs,requirements and demands of newer generation. what make come in the way new path is bound to evolve. Ponder and react as you deem fit...................