When the State Becomes a Khap: Marriage, Consent, and Constitutional Betrayal
Marriage did not begin as law. It began as life.
Long before statutes, registrars, or governments, human relationships evolved organically—through companionship, sexual intimacy, survival, and shared responsibility. Anthropological scholarship consistently shows that early human societies functioned without the rigid, institutionalized form of marriage familiar today. Kinship was often communal rather than nuclear, sexual relationships were relatively fluid, and child-rearing was a collective responsibility rather than the exclusive obligation of biological parents. What we now recognize as marriage is therefore not a biological inevitability, but a historical and social construction.¹
This raises a foundational question:
why did marriage evolve into a formal institution at all?
From Intimacy to Institution
Marriage emerged not to regulate love, but to regulate property, lineage, and power.
The transition from nomadic life to settled agriculture fundamentally altered social organization. With the accumulation of surplus wealth and land ownership came anxieties over inheritance: who would succeed whom, which children were legitimate heirs, and how lineage would be preserved. In this transformation, women’s sexuality and reproductive capacity became central to social regulation. As feminist historian Gerda Lerner demonstrated, the institutionalization of marriage was inseparable from the historical subordination of women and the consolidation of patriarchy.²
Marriage thus shifted from a personal bond to a social contract, increasingly enforced through religion, custom, and later the state. Its functions crystallized around:
controlling sexual relationships,
ensuring patriarchal inheritance,
defining legitimacy of children,
assigning gendered economic and caregiving roles, and
stabilizing social hierarchies
In this sense, marriage became a mechanism of social order, not individual freedom. As anthropologist Claude Lévi-Strauss observed, marriage historically served as an alliance between groups rather than a union of individuals.³
Why the Law Intervened: Protecting the Vulnerable
Paradoxically, the same institution that enabled control and exploitation eventually required legal intervention to mitigate its harms.
Modern marriage statutes were not enacted to moralize intimacy but to curb abuse: child marriage, polygamy, abandonment, denial of maintenance, and dispossession of women and children. Liberal political theory, particularly John Stuart Mill’s harm principle, justified state intervention not to impose morality but to prevent harm to vulnerable individuals.⁴
This rights-based reorientation transformed marriage from a purely religious or customary arrangement into a legal relationship carrying enforceable entitlements. Indian personal laws across religions gradually absorbed this logic. The Special Marriage Act, 1954, was especially significant: it offered a secular framework permitting marriage across caste, religion, and nationality, grounded solely in adult consent. It was conceived as a liberatory statute, not a surveillance mechanism.
Choice as a Constitutional Value
In India, the right to choose one’s partner is not textually enumerated as a “right to marry,” but it flows directly from Article 21 of the Constitution—the guarantee of life and personal liberty. Over the past two decades, constitutional jurisprudence has made this position unequivocal.
The Supreme Court of India has repeatedly affirmed that adult choice in marriage lies beyond the control of parents, community, or state. In Lata Singh v. State of Uttar Pradesh (2006), the Court upheld inter-caste marriage and condemned familial violence. In Shafin Jahan v. Asokan K.M. (2018), it held that the choice of a life partner is intrinsic to personal liberty. In Shakti Vahini v. Union of India (2018), it declared khap diktats unconstitutional, and in Laxmibai Chandaragi v. State of Karnataka (2021), it emphasized that once two adults consent, the law must protect rather than obstruct their union.
The constitutional message is consistent and unambiguous:
adults are citizens, not subjects of family or community rule.
Khap Panchayats and the Sociology of Control
Why, then, does society resist choice marriages with such ferocity?
Khap panchayats and community councils oppose inter-caste and inter-religious marriages not out of concern for individuals, but out of fear of social dilution. Such marriages threaten endogamy—the core mechanism through which caste reproduces itself. B.R. Ambedkar identified endogamy as the essence of caste, arguing that dismantling it would unravel the caste system itself.⁵ Choice marriage is therefore revolutionary precisely because it undermines hierarchy without overt political mobilization.
This is why it is punished—through violence, ostracism, and moral denunciation.
From Social Khaps to Legal Khaps
What marks the present moment as particularly dangerous is that the state itself is increasingly assuming the role of the khap.
This shift is no longer abstract. It has now taken concrete administrative form. The recent notification issued by the Government of Gujarat, mandating prior parental intimation before the registration of marriages between consenting adults, marks a decisive rupture from constitutional jurisprudence. By converting marriage registration into a site of familial scrutiny, the State has effectively imported the logic of khap panchayats into formal governance. What was once social coercion has now been clothed in bureaucratic legality.
This notification cannot be read in isolation. It forms part of a broader pattern across BJP-ruled states such as Uttar Pradesh, Uttarakhand, and Haryana, where executive orders and statutes regulating interfaith marriages—popularly branded under the rhetoric of “love jihad”—have institutionalised suspicion over adult consent. The cumulative effect is the transformation of the State into a legal khap, arrogating to itself the power to vet, delay, discourage, and delegitimise marriages of choice.
The Manufactured Panic of “Love Jihad”
At the ideological core of these measures lies the conspiracy theory of “love jihad.” Despite the absence of empirical evidence, judicial findings, or credible data, the narrative persists—mobilized by right-wing organizations to police interfaith intimacy, demonize Muslim men, infantilize women, and legitimize state intrusion into private life.
This is not about protection; it is about control. Political theorist Hannah Arendt’s warning is instructive here: revolutionary rhetoric, once institutionalized, often mutates into conservative authoritarianism.⁶
“At the ideological heart of the Gujarat notification, and similar enactments in Uttar Pradesh, Uttarakhand, and Haryana, lies the manufactured conspiracy of “love jihad.” These laws and notifications operate on a shared presumption: that adult women lack agency, that interfaith intimacy is inherently fraudulent, and that the State must intervene as moral guardian. Despite repeated judicial affirmations that consent is paramount, the narrative persists—amplified by right-wing organisations and legitimised by state action”
Two Yardsticks, One Republic
A stark hypocrisy underlies this moral regime.
Urban elites routinely marry across caste, religion, and nationality with social approval and legal ease. Meanwhile, ordinary citizens confront caste prohibitions, gotra taboos, community violence, police harassment, and bureaucratic obstruction. As legal scholar Upendra Baxi has argued, Indian constitutionalism often protects elite autonomy while disciplining the poor and socially marginal.⁷
Freedom becomes selective; autonomy becomes a privilege rather than a right.
Why Choice Marriages Strengthen Society
Contrary to reactionary claims, choice marriages do not erode social cohesion—they deepen it. They break caste silos, humanize religious difference, and foster everyday solidarities that no state policy can manufacture. Each inter-caste or interfaith marriage becomes a lived assertion of constitutional values.
Ambedkar’s famous observation remains relevant: the progress of a society is measured by the status of its women. The freedom to choose one’s partner lies at the heart of that progress.
Constitution vs. Custom
The Indian Constitution does not exist to preserve social orthodoxy. It exists to transform society. To privilege custom over consent is to invert constitutional morality. When the state demands parental approval for adult marriages, it violates Articles 21, 14, and 19, reinforcing patriarchal and communal control.
A democracy cannot demand a father’s permission at the registrar’s door.
“The Gujarat notification mandating parental intimation before marriage registration exemplifies this inversion of constitutional morality, privileging family authority over individual dignity and substituting constitutional citizenship with patriarchal permission.”
Conclusion
Marriage is a human relationship before it is a legal form. Law exists to protect autonomy, not suffocate it. When governments behave like legal khaps, they betray both history and the Constitution. The Gujarat notification is not an aberration but part of a broader authoritarian drift in which intimacy becomes suspect and autonomy negotiable.
A confident society does not fear love across boundaries.
A constitutional state does not police consent.
To defend choice marriage is to defend India’s plural soul.
To resist moral policing is not rebellion—it is constitutional fidelity.
Footnotes
1. Engels, F. The Origin of the Family, Private Property and the State (1884).
2. Lerner, G. The Creation of Patriarchy (Oxford University Press, 1986).
3. Lévi-Strauss, C. The Elementary Structures of Kinship (Beacon Press, 1969).
4. Mill, J.S. On Liberty (1859).
5. Ambedkar, B.R. Annihilation of Caste (1936).
6. Arendt, H. The Origins of Totalitarianism (1951).
7. Baxi, U. “The Crisis of the Indian Legal System,” Oxford University Press (1982).
8. Lata Singh v. State of Uttar Pradesh, (2006) 5 SCC 475.
9. Shafin Jahan v. Asokan K.M., (2018) 16 SCC 368.
10. Shakti Vahini v. Union of India, (2018) 7 SCC 192.
11. Laxmibai Chandaragi v. State of Karnataka, (2021) 3 SCC 360.
12. Agnes, F. Law and Gender Inequality (Oxford University Press, 1999).
13. Kannabiran, K. Tools of Justice: Non-discrimination and the Indian Constitution (Routledge, 2012).